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Santa Baby

Santa baby,
kick a subbie under the tree, for me
I've been an awful good girl

Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Santa baby,
a bound & gagged female subbie too, with tears
I'll wait up for you dear

Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Think of all the fun I've missed
Think of all the subbies that I haven't spanked

Next year I could be the Perfect DreamLover operator
If you'd check off my Christmas list
Boo doo bee doo

Santa honey, I wanna Tetruss and really that's
Not a lot
I've been an angel all year

Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Santa cutie, there's one thing I really do need,
an E-Stim 302R which is a remote control shocker with several modes and shock wave variations

Santa cutie, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Santa baby, I'm filling my stocking with a submissive contract and collar
Sign your 'X' on the line
Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight

Come and trim my Christmas tree
With some decorations bought at Locked in Steel
I really do believe in you
Let's see if you believe in me
Boo doo bee doo

Santa baby, forgot to mention one little thing,
Bend over Santa and I'll give you a thrill
with my 12 inch strap on dildo.

Santa baby, and hurry down the chimney tonight


Hurry down the chimney tonight
Hurry down the chimney tonight

Below are theories on different types of love.

Rubin's book, Liking and Loving, explains the similarities and differences between to the two emotions. Hatfield expressed the idea of companionate love verses passionate love. Lee described the three primary love styles in his book, The Colors of Love, and Sternberg founded his triangular theory of love.

Rubin
- Liking vs. Loving
- Love has three elements
- Attachment
- Desire to be with each other, physical contact, approval
- Caring
- Put the other person before you; sacrifice yourself for the sake of the other person
- Intimacy
- Bond between individuals, connection
- Liking is only when we think the person earns our respect, good morals



Hatfield
- Companionate vs. passionate love
- Passionate Love
- Longing to be with the other, physiological aroused
- Can be positive, if both feel the same way, or negative, if one disagrees
- Companionate Love
- Affection for those who we are close to
- Both partners must have the same feelings towards each other for this kind of love to work and be positive
- Passionate love and companionate love both existing in the same relationship may be impossible



Lee
- Color wheel of love styles
- Three primary love styles
- Eros- Love an ideal person
- Ludus- Love as a game
- Storge- Love as a friendship
- These primary loves can combine to one another to make different secondary loves
- Eros + Ludus will equal Mania or obsessive love
- Ludus + Storge will equal Pragma pr realistic and practical love
- Eros + Storge will equal Agape or dutiful and selfless love
- There are also nine more possible loves that are made by combining primary loves to secondary loves


Sternberg
- Triangle theory of love
- Three components to love
- Intimacy
- Sharing thoughts, emotions, stories, communication
- Passion
- Sexually aroused, attraction
- Commitment
- Maintain relationship, nourish loving feelings
- When all are present they will make consummate love
- Hardly ever happens
- Usually only one or two components are strongly emphasized in a relationship
- Also the some components can become weaker and others can become stronger to change the

Happy Holidays!

Enjoy your holiday sessions!

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Thoughts on navigating through the casual dating world…

"I used to think it was weird to date more than one person at a time, since I’ve only experienced serial monogamy.

I realize that for some people, non-exclusive dating, or dating several people can be a great way to date. It’s a great way to get to know a lot of different people to learn more about the opposite sex, yourself, and basically enrich your life by engaging in regular one-on-one interactions with the opposite sex.


Here’s how to do it without creating drama:


1. Make it clear to everyone you’re dating that you’re not looking for a serious/exclusive relationship at this time. You’re out dating to get to know people…

You want to do this without leading people on. And the way to do that is to be clear about your intent.


2. This piece of advice was from my coworker Ken, who knows from experience how casual dating works: Don’t hang out with them more than once a week, twice MAX.

The reason for this is because people naturally make this association:

time devoted= level of commitment

Even if you don’t verbalize commitment, someone could still get hurt because they will see that you’re spending a lot of time with them. They might come to the conclusion that you are only seeing them. Of course no one should ever make that conclusion without the other party actually saying something about wanting to be exclusive, but people’s natural tendency is to think, “We have something special here,” aka, he/she couldn’t possibly have this same kind of interaction with someone else!


3. Other than mentioning that you are dating casually/non-exclusively to get to know a lot of people, DON’T mention your other dates!

They really don’t need to know any details about any of the other people you are seeing. Make sure they are your focus when you are with them. It’s just good practice, common courtesy, and respect for their feelings.


4. As soon as you realize that someone is no longer a candidate you would consider pursuing an exclusive relationship with after getting to know them better, STOP DATING THEM.

Don’t lead them on. Let them be free to explore their other options. Maybe you’re not that into her. You don’t know what she’s going through. What you do know is that she still wants to see you, so you can guage from that, that there is still a romantic interest. Let her go.

It’s only fair. If you know you would no longer desire to possibly see them exclusively in the future, let them go. If you are a guy, just stop asking the girl out. If you’re a woman, when he asks you out again, just say, “I’m sorry. I don’t want to pursue this any further. You are a great person, and there is a great person out there for you, but I don’t see this moving forward.”

If they ask, “Why?” you don’t have to answer that question. All you have to say is, “I’m sorry. I don’t want to get into it. Good luck though.”

Band aid approach. WAY better than stringing someone along and then dropping them when they’ve already fallen hard for you." from the website "Dating Advice from a Girl"