The benefits for women in Female Led Relationship
Women and men will get benefits from a female led relationship. They may either share benefits or have specific benefits for the women or the man. Of course the chief benefit is growing a relation towards your ideals and working together to get there.
"If you look at FLR it looks like the safest relationship a woman can have. She makes the rules, she sets the boundaries, she has final say and he both loves her and supports her in her role. In any other relationship women do not enjoy that kind of freedom or safety. This is a functional model for any woman who wants more control and less strife. There should be zero downside to female led relationships when entered into with open eyes and a whole heart between two people who love each other." -- A BBS entry from Asserting leadership
A varied and interesting sex life.
As much control over your relationship, him and your life together as you want.
Being able to be bitchy, angry and condescending without conflict.
Becoming a better lover to your mate.
Build a formal relationship agreement.
Expanding your leadership as you please.
Expanding your sex life as you please.
Get him to do as much of the housework as you like.
Greater respect from your mate.
Growing confidence as a leader.
Having a more confident man who knows the drill.
Helping him to become a better lover.
Helping him to improve his health and well being.
Helping him to stop bad habits.
Indulging in your kinks and his as you choose.
More intimacy as desired.
Nurturing as much or as little as you want.
Pampering from your man and receiving as much as you want.
Promoting togetherness, connection and relationship longevity.
Satisfaction of pleasing your lover.
Teach and create change as much as you want.
Work towards goals together.
The benefits for men in FLR
Indulge your fantasies.
Surrender to female authority.
Get closer to your mate by serving her body.
Become a better lover to your mate.
Remain confident by knowing the rules and consequences.
Knowing her expectations.
Express your willingness to submit.
Learning new things.
Helped in becoming a better lover.
Bring harmony to your family by serving.
Stop bad habits.
Encourage your mate as a successful leader.
Help normalize female led relationships.
Learn greater intimacy, connection and vulnerability.
Promote togetherness, connection and relationship longevity.
Work towards goals together.
Getting the benefits you want
Set up your benefits as relationship goals by making hard and fast rules and traditions in your relationship agreement. You may need to negotiate trade offs. We recommend women be steadfast about not doing things that are just not in her nature. She should claim those things she wants for her man because that kind of position is good leadership.
lundi 28 novembre 2011
Why would a man wear a chastity device?
I found this list to be very entertaining....smiles**
"The average man would immediately reject the notion of wearing such a device, as it represents both a loss of something dearly important, as well as unnecessary and uncomfortable. But after the initial reaction, some men become curious. Men who think they may have a sexual-related problem and/or a submissive nature sometimes will look at these as something of a solution, or something exciting that could add to their relationship. Once a man realizes that wearing the device is totally voluntary, curiosity could lead to giving it a try.
Based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
Needed to help restore trust in a relationship with your wife or life partner after a loss of self-control.
Self-protection to resist undesired impulses for sexual encounters.
Control of compulsive masturbation problems.
To spice up your marriage by surrendering control of your orgasms to your partner.
The feelings and sensations that a man may derive from wearing such a device include:
Maintained focus (fewer sexual distractions)
Self-confidence (no need to be concerned about resisting temptation)
A sense of constant, low-level arousal when you think about your wife or partner holding the key
Fewer arousing dreams during sleep (once you get used to it)
Loss or reduction of arrogance when you've given the key to someone you love
Greater self-discipline and temperament
Greater ability to trust yourself and others
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every man will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
If you would like to comment on the above, please write to us at support@lockeduplove.com.
Why would a woman want her man to wear a chastity device?
Not all women take to the idea of having her man locked up in a chastity device, at least not initially. But based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
To help restore trust in a relationship when there is suspicion or evidence of extra-marital affairs.
Similarly, women who have been hurt by a former partner's infidelity may want her man to wear one for her own sense of security.
Some women find it very erotic to be able to control their man's orgasm.
A man will try harder to please his woman if there is a chance she will deny him access to the key; consequently he's more attentive and helpful around the home.
As long as he is wearing it, you will never again have to worry about him leaving the toilet seat up.
Generally, when the wife is holding the key and knows that he is locked, she will experience:
a greater sense of security and trust with your man
a sense of control that some women find very erotic
more attention and affection, and fore-play during sex
some women find that they want to dress and behave more sexily to further stimulate their man (teasing and denial), which in-turn stimulates her own sex drive.
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every woman will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
If you would like to comment on the above, please contact us at support@lockeduplove.com."
"The average man would immediately reject the notion of wearing such a device, as it represents both a loss of something dearly important, as well as unnecessary and uncomfortable. But after the initial reaction, some men become curious. Men who think they may have a sexual-related problem and/or a submissive nature sometimes will look at these as something of a solution, or something exciting that could add to their relationship. Once a man realizes that wearing the device is totally voluntary, curiosity could lead to giving it a try.
Based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
Needed to help restore trust in a relationship with your wife or life partner after a loss of self-control.
Self-protection to resist undesired impulses for sexual encounters.
Control of compulsive masturbation problems.
To spice up your marriage by surrendering control of your orgasms to your partner.
The feelings and sensations that a man may derive from wearing such a device include:
Maintained focus (fewer sexual distractions)
Self-confidence (no need to be concerned about resisting temptation)
A sense of constant, low-level arousal when you think about your wife or partner holding the key
Fewer arousing dreams during sleep (once you get used to it)
Loss or reduction of arrogance when you've given the key to someone you love
Greater self-discipline and temperament
Greater ability to trust yourself and others
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every man will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
If you would like to comment on the above, please write to us at support@lockeduplove.com.
Why would a woman want her man to wear a chastity device?
Not all women take to the idea of having her man locked up in a chastity device, at least not initially. But based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
To help restore trust in a relationship when there is suspicion or evidence of extra-marital affairs.
Similarly, women who have been hurt by a former partner's infidelity may want her man to wear one for her own sense of security.
Some women find it very erotic to be able to control their man's orgasm.
A man will try harder to please his woman if there is a chance she will deny him access to the key; consequently he's more attentive and helpful around the home.
As long as he is wearing it, you will never again have to worry about him leaving the toilet seat up.
Generally, when the wife is holding the key and knows that he is locked, she will experience:
a greater sense of security and trust with your man
a sense of control that some women find very erotic
more attention and affection, and fore-play during sex
some women find that they want to dress and behave more sexily to further stimulate their man (teasing and denial), which in-turn stimulates her own sex drive.
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every woman will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
If you would like to comment on the above, please contact us at support@lockeduplove.com."
samedi 26 novembre 2011
A D/s definition for you, who asked.
Domination and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of psychosexual behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of dominance of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context.
It is part of the BDSM group of paraphilias.
D/s is often referred to as the "mental" side of BDSM. Physical contact is not a necessity, and can even be conducted anonymously over telephone, email or (more recently) instant messaging services. In other cases it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into sadomasochism.
In D/s, one takes pleasure or erotic enjoyment out of either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called Dominants, Doms (male) or Dommes (female), while those who take the subordinate position are called subs or submissives.
Submissives generally outnumber Dominants, with male subs outnumbering Dommes by the widest margin, often three to one or more.
D/s relationship styles
There can be any number of partners in a D/s relationship, with one Dominant sometimes having several subs, who may in turn dominate others. Relationships with multiple Dominants and a single submissive are rarer. The most common combination is a single Dominant and submissive couple, often in an ongoing committed relationship.
Romantic love is not necessarily a feature in D/s, partners might be very much in love or have no romantic relationship at all.
Variation in D/s (or BDSM for that matter) is virtually limitless and the activities take many forms, and may include servitude, verbal abuse, erotic humiliation, consensual slavery and sexual slavery and may be combined with other forms of BDSM in myriad combinations.
A classic example of D/s is the Sissymaid, where an adult male dresses in cartoonish female clothing and performs stereotypical female chores such as houscleaning or serving tea.
Some D/s relationships are sexual, others completely chaste.
Fantasy role play can also be a part, with partners taking classic dominant/submissive roles such as teacher/student, police officer/suspect or parent/child. Animal Play, where one partner takes the role of owner/caretaker and the other takes the part of a pet or animal, can also be D/s play.
It is part of the BDSM group of paraphilias.
D/s is often referred to as the "mental" side of BDSM. Physical contact is not a necessity, and can even be conducted anonymously over telephone, email or (more recently) instant messaging services. In other cases it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into sadomasochism.
In D/s, one takes pleasure or erotic enjoyment out of either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called Dominants, Doms (male) or Dommes (female), while those who take the subordinate position are called subs or submissives.
Submissives generally outnumber Dominants, with male subs outnumbering Dommes by the widest margin, often three to one or more.
D/s relationship styles
There can be any number of partners in a D/s relationship, with one Dominant sometimes having several subs, who may in turn dominate others. Relationships with multiple Dominants and a single submissive are rarer. The most common combination is a single Dominant and submissive couple, often in an ongoing committed relationship.
Romantic love is not necessarily a feature in D/s, partners might be very much in love or have no romantic relationship at all.
Variation in D/s (or BDSM for that matter) is virtually limitless and the activities take many forms, and may include servitude, verbal abuse, erotic humiliation, consensual slavery and sexual slavery and may be combined with other forms of BDSM in myriad combinations.
A classic example of D/s is the Sissymaid, where an adult male dresses in cartoonish female clothing and performs stereotypical female chores such as houscleaning or serving tea.
Some D/s relationships are sexual, others completely chaste.
Fantasy role play can also be a part, with partners taking classic dominant/submissive roles such as teacher/student, police officer/suspect or parent/child. Animal Play, where one partner takes the role of owner/caretaker and the other takes the part of a pet or animal, can also be D/s play.
vendredi 25 novembre 2011
Being Thankful
This Thanksgiving had me reflecting on the loss of my parents and grandparents. And how the death of the last parent changes a whole family for better or worse.
I have a circle of friends who I am turning towards as my family, just so happens that most of them are subbmissives. I enjoy each and everyone of them in their own special way.
I enjoyed a mani pedi session with a gentleman to get my thanksgiving off to a smooth and soft start. I enjoyed a Vegetarian Thanksgiving meal with one and then we decorated his tree. This Black Friday evening I will attend a concert with a gentleman and his parents & his sister and her boyfriend. I love to watch football and my sports gentleman was not available to me.
I am Thankful for my submissive gentlemen who take such good care of me.
I have a circle of friends who I am turning towards as my family, just so happens that most of them are subbmissives. I enjoy each and everyone of them in their own special way.
I enjoyed a mani pedi session with a gentleman to get my thanksgiving off to a smooth and soft start. I enjoyed a Vegetarian Thanksgiving meal with one and then we decorated his tree. This Black Friday evening I will attend a concert with a gentleman and his parents & his sister and her boyfriend. I love to watch football and my sports gentleman was not available to me.
I am Thankful for my submissive gentlemen who take such good care of me.
dimanche 20 novembre 2011
D/s Love
I attended an after party given by a psychiatrist last evening and there were several psychiatrists and psychology professionals in attendance. One told me that I am one of the most extroverted people for my age group. He even said that I am very well adjusted and not jaded by my negative experiences of the world. Psychology professionals are always shrinking peoples head even at a really good party when they are supposed to be relaxing and enjoying themselves.
I started thinking about his statement this morning…”Extroverted for my age group”.Could it be my search to fall in Love just for the fun of it?
Not the kind of love you get from penetration sex. Penetration sex leads to bad choices and uncontrollable feelings. For example:
-the relationship is not for you but you stay because the sex is good.
-the relationship is not what you want it to be but you hope to change it by using the good sex
- the relationship is based on the good sex and that is all
I’m referring to the kind of love that makes you smile just because. It makes no logical since but it’s a wonderful feeling kind of love. You want to give everything that you have to this person.
The kiss on the lips out of the blue, the public display of affection from someone who does not do public displays of affection and the spontaneous little things that are done - to you by someone on purpose - because they know you will receive it as a show of their love towards you.
I admire the submissives ability to let go of all, trust full, give fully and learn from their Dom.
The sub screens their Dom, learns their Dom, submits to their Dom all the while falling deeply and truly in love with their Dom. The submissive knows that their Dom will befriend them, protect them, guide them, and catch them as they fall. As well as stress them, punish them, stretch their limits and teach them new things.
I started thinking about his statement this morning…”Extroverted for my age group”.Could it be my search to fall in Love just for the fun of it?
Not the kind of love you get from penetration sex. Penetration sex leads to bad choices and uncontrollable feelings. For example:
-the relationship is not for you but you stay because the sex is good.
-the relationship is not what you want it to be but you hope to change it by using the good sex
- the relationship is based on the good sex and that is all
I’m referring to the kind of love that makes you smile just because. It makes no logical since but it’s a wonderful feeling kind of love. You want to give everything that you have to this person.
The kiss on the lips out of the blue, the public display of affection from someone who does not do public displays of affection and the spontaneous little things that are done - to you by someone on purpose - because they know you will receive it as a show of their love towards you.
I admire the submissives ability to let go of all, trust full, give fully and learn from their Dom.
The sub screens their Dom, learns their Dom, submits to their Dom all the while falling deeply and truly in love with their Dom. The submissive knows that their Dom will befriend them, protect them, guide them, and catch them as they fall. As well as stress them, punish them, stretch their limits and teach them new things.
samedi 19 novembre 2011
Two Loves: Which one do you choose to hurt?
It is possible to be in a loving relationship and still find yourself having feelings for someone else. This is completely normal and it may just be temporary.
Maybe this other person has done something nice for you or has shown you some kind of interest for one reason or another. This may trigger some emotional feelings towards this person and you may not understand why or how you can stop them.
There may be two people that are so very different from each other but for some reason they both have caught your attention and you like them for separate reasons.
This is possible and you will have to come to terms with which one is going to be
better for you. You must think about your feelings for both people and why you are having these feelings.
How do I determine which one is the right mate for me?
You will have to figure out which person is right for you. This will take a lot of thinking on your part. You will have to figure out what it is you want to have in life. What type of life do you want and which person will be better for you. You will have to spend some time with both of the people so that you can better determine which person you have more of a connection with.
Attraction is the main reason why people want to be together.
You may have some sort of physical or emotional attraction for the other person. When this is the case, you have to dig down deeper and find out if there is another reason why you are so infatuated with this person. You will need to spend time together talking and finding out about one another so that you can better determine who is going to be best for you.
Maybe this other person has done something nice for you or has shown you some kind of interest for one reason or another. This may trigger some emotional feelings towards this person and you may not understand why or how you can stop them.
There may be two people that are so very different from each other but for some reason they both have caught your attention and you like them for separate reasons.
This is possible and you will have to come to terms with which one is going to be
better for you. You must think about your feelings for both people and why you are having these feelings.
How do I determine which one is the right mate for me?
You will have to figure out which person is right for you. This will take a lot of thinking on your part. You will have to figure out what it is you want to have in life. What type of life do you want and which person will be better for you. You will have to spend some time with both of the people so that you can better determine which person you have more of a connection with.
Attraction is the main reason why people want to be together.
You may have some sort of physical or emotional attraction for the other person. When this is the case, you have to dig down deeper and find out if there is another reason why you are so infatuated with this person. You will need to spend time together talking and finding out about one another so that you can better determine who is going to be best for you.
jeudi 3 novembre 2011
love of a submissive
...a unique sense of comfort and acceptance as he takes the pain that I give.
The feeling that his happiness is as important to me as my own happiness.
The feeling that his happiness is as important to me as my own happiness.
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